Facebook profile monitoring spouse, installing a spy software on his laptop or phone hacking her e-mail: nowadays, jealousy will flare, feeds and sometimes is confirmed the universe 2.0.
On the back of a jacket, long blond hair. In a pocket, the bill for a romantic restaurant. And a quiet but eloquent perfume (Dior? Chanel?) From the collar of a shirt … Certainly a bit clichés, these classic signs of infidelity appear to date from another era. Today, it is more in the virtual world that we seek, and sometimes find, evidence that the loved one deceives us: email, Facebook profiles and mobile phones are scrutinized by suspicious halves rightly or wrongly, sometimes through spyware (see box)
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“We live in an era marked by transparency and oversight, confirms Sami al, sociologist and researcher specializing in new technologies at the University of Geneva. Social networks in particular allow us to have a new look not only our spouse, but also our neighbors, our colleagues, our friends. “For the sociologist, jealousy 2.0, side effect of this increased surveillance, not s therefore applies not only to romantic relationships, but also to those who want his contact Facebook for pictures of his weekend in Ibiza or those of high-tech equipment that has been paid. And, to mention, in the case of couples, the obvious example of a (an) ex present (e) in the friends list of their own half and which one is suspicious …
The 2.0 world to confound the infidelity of her husband
Meanwhile, Juliette Buffat, psychiatrist and psychotherapist in Geneva and author Editions Favre, of the book Gender and you receive regular in his study of couples with stories of infidelity were revealed by a text message, an email, a selfie, video …
The discovery of a message from a spouse to a third party is much more traumatic than a hair on his clothes. Such trading is much more detailed and explicit. “
For the sexologist, new technologies offer another way to stir up jealousy in households … as they open new doors to infidelity, through, for example, dating sites
accuracy Sami al. “We did not wait for the internet to feel jealous or deceive her husband. I do not think the web is creating new “vocations”. But it is clear that this is a tool for those who would know less about how to go about seducing in real life and take the plunge. “Sociologist also notes that if the beginnings of social networking surveillance was made easier for jealous husbands or women (his) – especially compared to spinning in the street or hired a private detective – “users today took a step back, have lost their naivete vis-à-vis the net and share information about them with more care. “
” To share a password, as a sign of love “
Some couples choose also not to be friends on Facebook, and so rely on trust. “But it is essential that the arrangement suits both. If one is reluctant, it might raise suspicions of each other and the situation can quickly become a source of conflict. “Conversely, a common practice among teenagers it was a few years ago to exchange words password profiles, by showing love. “Of course, under the guise of transparency, one of the partners could well have a different profile, unknown to his half …”
In short, Sami al, if new technologies have not fundamentally changed the nature of relationships, it is however necessary to rethink the rules under this new light. “You can even wonder where infidelity begins … Is flirting on Meetic is already wrong? Or acting out is it necessary “These questions – and many more, in view of the rapid changes in technology – which it will be useful to respond in the coming years …
© Migros Magazine – Tania Araman
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